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Simple Ways to Help the Lawyer in Your Life (Even If It’s You)

  • Long work hours are rough on lawyers, so anything you can do to save them time will be truly appreciated
  • Plan a home-cooked meal or another low-effort activity where all they need to do is show up
  • Set proper expectations that work might interrupt your plans and try to be understanding if it does

Lawyers are notorious for having high stress levels, which means they’re often in need of a lift from their supporters.

If you’re looking to give a little boost to the lawyer in your life, whether it’s your spouse, coworker, friend, family member, try one of the ideas below to help them in the way of better sleep, relaxation, or a little tender loving care. While we’ve aimed the below at those looking to help the lawyer in their life, lawyers should look to help themselves to these tips as well. 

Cook a Meal

With long hours and jam-packed days, the last thing an attorney wants to do after an arduous week at the office or a day struggling with a difficult caseload is to be up on their feet cooking a full meal.

Surprise your loved one with their coffee order in the morning, a healthy packed lunch (for the ubiquitous eating-over-the-desk days), or a nicely cooked dinner that’s ready to reheat. Or, if you’re looking for the perfect gift for an attorney, a meal delivery service subscription will do the trick, allowing them to rely a little less on traditional restaurant delivery or microwavable meals.

Pamper Them

Lawyers have higher-than-average rates of anxiety, stress, and related health problems, such as heart disease. A little rest and relaxation goes a long way, though, and you can help the lawyer in your life do both.

Once you’re already stressed, it’s hard to fight for the “me time” you really need, so you might need to encourage your loved one to take a much-needed break. Offer to accompany your friend for a day at the sauna, gym, or nail salon. If you’re together, a back massage or drawing a hot bath is always appreciated. And in terms of a gift, you can’t go wrong with a gift certificate for a massage, facial, or day at the spa.

Free up Their Time

Seeing a pattern? Time is of the essence when you’re an attorney, and domestic chores like laundry and dishes can pile up quickly. If you’re a lawyer’s spouse or roommate, pick up a chore that would normally fall on them if you have a free moment. Ask your friend if you can help them clean up or if you can come over and take on a chore or two. And in gift terms, you can’t often do much better than a good housecleaning service to get a busy attorney back to square one.

What can you think of to lessen a lawyer’s chore load?

Lend an Ear

Attorneys often spend all day listening to and working through other people’s problems. Beyond a heavy workload, this might well be one of the reasons that lawyers have high divorce rates: Coming home to discuss marital or familial issues in depth after a day of heavy communication might be too much for many attorneys.

So, what can you do to help? It’s simple: Start listening. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should have less of a voice, but sometimes your attention can shift to the lawyer in your life to give them a curious, non-judgmental, listening ear, to help them feel a little less overwhelmed.

Give Them Space

Pay attention to the schedule of your attorney friend, relative, significant other or spouse. Attorneys’ workloads are notoriously unpredictable and full of ebb and flow. A few relatively low-key weeks might be followed by a big case that leaves your loved one slammed with work.

If you know there’s a stressful time coming up for the lawyer in your life, try to be understanding and give them more space than usual. As much as possible, don’t add to their stress or workload. Ask how you can help or, if you live with them, simply leave them be for the first 30 minutes to an hour after work to let them decompress.

Take Their Mind off Work

If you’ve ever been absorbed 24/7 in a project, now you know what it’s like to be a lawyer all the time! Sometimes, it can seem like a particular case takes over their life, leaving nothing for hobbies or passions. Invite your friend or loved one to an art gallery, a sporting event, or dinner and a movie to help them take their mind off work for once. If you’re buying a gift certificate, think “experiences”: escape rooms, comedy shows, concerts, and anything with a little playfulness make for great stress relievers.

What's Next

Treat the lawyer in your life by taking one of the stress-reducing or time-saving actions above.